Do you ever feel like you are in a situation where you constantly contemplate whether remaining in the situation is worth your time and energy? Whether the contemplation is over a job, a relationship, a friendship or whatever, is it draining you of your joy and happiness? Well first off, this is definitely a sign of dysfunction to. I’ve experienced enough in my life time to know when something is draining my energy. Relationships should be inspiring, uplifting, and loving.
If we are in relationships and we are not experiencing the more pleasurable aspects of what a relationship has to offer such as; pure and intense love, admiration, trust, honesty, and devotion, then what is the point of the reationship? When we put up with standards less than satisfactory we have to ask ourselves questions such as; is this all there is to life and love? Is this what I’ve settled for? Do I have to settle? Why am I settling? And why am I dealing with this dysfunction?
We have to maintain control of our destiny and our lives, therefore if something is not satisfying or fulfilling our needs we must learn to let it go. We must learn to differentiate between ‘turning the page,‘ and simply ‘closing the book.’
Turning the page more or less means coming to a consensus with someone else and moving forward under the terms of forgiveness yet, continuing a relationship. A form of forgiveness. Whereas, closing the book means just that! Possessing the courage to do such a task is easier said than done, but I am a firm believer that when one book closes another is waiting to be opened. So let’s start LOVING ourselves enough to know when to turn the page or close the book.
We are beautiful, worthy, and capable people who do not need to settle for less than what our spirit allows. Be true to you no matter the situation.
When we have dreams we want to accomplish we must first set goals to attain those dreams. Dreams are something we feel excited about and ready to move full steam ahead to accomplishing them. Unfortunately, this sudden feeling of EMPOWERMENT doesn’t last for long.
Having the ability to think about GOALS entails a great MINDSET. We have to keep ENVISIONING our DREAMS. We have to keep IMAGINING the possibilities and what we wish to accomplish. This is similar to THE LAW OF ATTRACTION… You have to believe it, to achieve it, and receive it!
Some helpful ways in which I stay motivated is by reading MOTIVATIONAL quotes daily. This helps to keep me inspired, and my MOTIVATION levels up. Another tip is to keep in mind the other accomplishments you made. This in itself should be a motivation starter.
Don’t stop DREAMING!!!
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“Girl, why are you still ANGRY about something that happened two years ago?”
For me, the obvious reason is one has not forgiven their wrong doer.
This is the question I would ask my ‘sisters’ and ‘brothers’ when we continue to hold hard feelings towards our pass aggressors. You know, the one who wouldn’t loan us the 200 hundred dollars, or the one who was talking with someone we were ANGRY at; or any other silly a** reasons we become unforgiving.
Not being able to forgive is a horrible and bitter GENERATIONAL CYCLE for one to consume. This state of mind doesn’t hurt anyone except for the one doing the unforgiving. This state of mind causes the unforgiving to become bitter, cold, and angry to name a few emotions. This cycle can cause a type of unnecessary festering of wounds, new and old wounds which are never allowed to heal. Un-forgiveness allows the victim to constantly have reasons to hold on (in their mind, to victimization) on to others and sometime our own actions from the past, sort of like a crutch. We can never be the better person while holding a clutch.
And yes, this too is a GENERATIONAL CYCLE.
This type of person needs some serious self-awareness and self-evaluation.
I say, “we should get over ourselves”! Do we think the person we are begrudging is thinking about us, and our feelings? Well, the answer is NO!
We have to come to a consensus that we are in control of our own lives, and must at some point seek our own meaning of life, while being able to care for ourselves. This means: physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Until we can take time, sit back, and meditate ON OUR LIVES, and what is causing particular actions to take place, we will always have clutter, and unresolved issues.
Alone time with oneself allows one to hear his, or her thoughts. To listen to that voice inside. Something that cannot be accomplished in entirety when there is outside noise, or distractions. We know when we are an UNFORGIVING people possessing the “unforgiving spirit”, as I call it. No one should have to point that flaw out to us. If we are HONEST with ourselves, we will acknowledge it.
In turn, RECOGNIZING, ACKNOWLEDGING AND RESOLVING is the first steps to doing so…
In fact, for myself I decided long ago; I, and only I, have the responsibility of changing my thoughts; while acknowledging and becoming mindful, and recognizing my emotions, and feelings towards people and things. I had to OPEN MY EYES to RECOGONIZE, ACKNOWLEDGE, and RESOLVE my own emotions in an effort to be a better person. I know this is a cliché”, but I am still a work in progress.
Taking these steps require constant self-awareness, as well as discipline, but that is exactly the purpose of changing our actions, negative attitudes, and whole disposition towards others.
This spirit of UNFORGIVENESS, noted as a dysfunctional CYCLE or SPIRITUAL BONDAGE, can be another cycle passed down from one generation to the next generation.
With practice we can all change to become better people, who have better families, better understanding, better relationships and live better lives.
There is a lot of talk in the news concerning Baltimore Ravens player, Ray Rice and the newly released video of him assaulting his wife Janay. This is really repulsive to me. Any man who can’t possess control and restraint have serious issues. One being a COWARD! Ray Rice is a disgrace to all men and woman and he should pay for his crimes.
As a young child, I grew up watching my mother get repeatedly abused by some of the men in her life, and this was not only mind altering, but life changing for me. I cannot fault my mother for enduring what she did, because it’s what she was accustomed to. She never got the memo on what REAL love looked, or felt like.
It wasn’t like my mother couldn’t take care of herself, and her children because she could, and she did. She was a hard working single mother, and her whole life was centered on providing for her children. There was really no need for an abusive man to remain in her life.
(Later I will write about the types of abuse I too, endured as an adult). GENERATIONAL CYCLES.
Today I am a little disappointed in Janay Rice’s IG post. I can’t condone what she said, but I can certainly understand how she could possibly feel. Some woman never received love, inspiration and motivation from their parents, and as a result they grow up with low self-esteem, settling for one bad person after another, resulting in dysfunctional relationships; usually because their beliefs of not being worthy,( or simply thinking its O.K. because this is what they are used to seeing.
Well ladies let me tell you, there is better out there. I too struggled with some verbal and emotionally abusive relationships, but I knew my WORTH and I refused to allow any man not to respect me and love
We all know and understand that life itself is made up of cycles. Cycles of the weather. Cycles of nature, and cycles of life. Most of these cycles are natural and understood to be the natural means and ways of replenishing and rebirth. Weather changing from cold to hot; change in seasons, which in essence is rebirth of nature. New lively, and healthy children replacing the old, frail and elderly.
The only time these cycles become dysfunctional is when humans start disrupting or causing dysfunction. Air pollution, and emissions, usually injected by humans; causes weather changes, per scientist (and anybody else with good sense). These air borne pollutants can also be attributed to sickly and asthmatic children, but I digress. As a disclaimer, these are my opinions, and experiences that I choose to share for my blog post. They are my thoughts.
Getting back to my original thoughts regarding GENERATIONAL CYCLES. These cycles too can be disruptive to the family unit. Unfortunately, many times cycles within many families are intentionally and purposefully ignored for many reasons, such as shame and denial. Therefore, it is up to us to start RECOGNIZING, ACKNOWLEDGING, AND RESOLVING dysfunctional generational CYCLES within our families.
My life experiences consist of many cycles i will speak about. I will share a list of generational cycles in which I feel has had a hindrance on me and many of my family members, in some aspect or another. Without my doing my own soul searching and becoming spiritually in tuned with my own needs and wants I would have never been able to RECOGNIZE the family cycles; which are continuing from one generation to the next generation.
I was very inquisitive and self-aware ever since I was a young child, which prompted my thoughts, regarding this matter. I started noticing things that did not seem to appear appropriate very early on as a child.
I was a ‘fight the power’ type child; just as I am now a fight the power adult!
So let’s get to know each other, and if I can help open your eyes in efforts to, recognizing, acknowledging, and resolving dysfunction I will have fulfilled my mission. Thank you and stay tuned for our serious on GENERATIONAL CYCLES, which will cover family issues such as: anger, bitterness, lack of love and emotions. Promiscuity, baby daddies and mamas, etc.
So please realize I am very opinionated, yet passionate about my beliefs, so if you can’t take the heat please stay out of my kitchen.